Devin Harvan, of The Granite House For Men, reflects on his recovery, and how society at large would be better off if everyone lived by the principles of the 12 Steps. Here’s more:
Living with less meaning
In today’s society, there’s a lot less meaning to things. A lot less people are geared towards finding something that they actually love doing and that they’re passionate about. They’re more geared towards finding a job that will help them achieve materialistic success. So, they try to find a job to help them make more money. Meanwhile, relationships in general are more superficial. That’s because everything is done behind a phone, behind a computer screen; nothing is done face to face anymore. I feel like, especially today, the value in a handshake–which used to mean so much back in the day–nowadays, that’s not as honored.
I was stuck, left behind in the dust…
I think a lot of these things create an environment where people feel like they’re caught in this spin cycle or this whirlwind where the world’s moving all around them and they’re getting left behind in the dust. A lot of my friends got jobs as accountants and moved out of their parents’ house and started getting married, having babies, all of that. And I had that exact feeling I described before: I felt like the world was spinning all around me and I was stuck in my parents’ house using heroin without much of a direction–or any clue as to which direction to go.
And now I can help people, every day
Being in recovery, there’s now an opportunity to do whatever I want to do. I developed a lot of this passion for doing what I do here at The Granite House, through going through the 12 Steps. But, I know I’ll be happy doing whatever as long as I’m helping another person. I’m going to be a happy man doing that. I’ll be able to sleep at night, and I’ll be able to die on my deathbed someday knowing that I’ve affected these people’s lives in a positive way. I’ve helped these people. And, that’s a realization I never even had or conceived of before I had come here and done this program and gone through the work. When I wake up in the morning, I think, “Help me help another alcoholic or just anyone who’s struggling today”. And I feel like there’s not as much of that in the world today as there should be. That’s something I always share is that, “Man, if the world lived by the principles that are taught to us in this program, what a better place this world would be”.