How to Help an Alcoholic Family Member

Authored by Granite Recovery Centers    Reviewed by James Gamache    Last Updated: August 27th, 2021

James Gamache Medical Reviewer
Jim is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LICSW) and Licensed Masters Level Addictions Counselor (MLADC). He has been working in the field of mental health/addiction treatment since 1995. Jim earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Human Services from Springfield College in 2000, and a Masters Degree in Social Work from Boston University in 2002. In 2002 Jim was hired by the Mental Health Center of Greater Manchester holding the position of Clinical Case Manager. From 2004-2019, Jim was employed at WestBridge Inc. During his time at WestBridge, Jim held the following positions; Clinician, Team Leader, Director, & Chief Operations Officer. In 2019 Jim transitioned employment to GateHouse Treatment Center as the Clinical Director for 10 months. In October of 2020 Jim transitioned to Granite Recovery Centers and is currently serving as the Senior VP of Clinical Services and Quality Assurance.

When someone has an addiction to drugs or alcohol, it can affect everyone around them. Most importantly, it can affect family members who close to the person. If you have a parent, child, or sibling that is suffering from alcoholism, you may go through various emotions, mental problems, or have a strained relationship. You may not know how to help an alcoholic family member.

An alcohol addiction rehab center in New Hampshire offers an extensive treatment program that can help a family recover from even the most severe addictions. The best way to convince someone to go to rehab is to have a plan in place before you confront the person. If you need help with intervention, your best option is to seek guidance from a treatment professional.

How to Help an Alcoholic 

Alcoholism is something that occurs over time. Most families are unaware of alcoholism until the person starts exhibiting destructive behaviors. However, even when you notice that someone has a problem with drinking, you still may not know how to help an alcoholic family member. Here are some tips to help get you started:

  • Expose the Problem – It is understandable if a loved one’s alcoholism is embarrassing to you. However, hiding the problem will not help it. It is better if the alcoholic feels shameful for their action. This will cause them to do something about it. Therefore, do not avoid social occasions or time spent in public. The more the person feels embarrassed for their action, the more likely they are to do something about it.
  • Talk to Your Family Member When They Are Sober – It is really easy to lose your temper and get on to someone when they are drunk. However, your effort is futile, and your words are likely to go in one ear and out the other. Wait until your family member is sober and can process what you are saying. You are more likely to get their attention.
  • It Is Time to Set Some Boundaries – Boundaries are hard to keep because they often come with consequences and require a great deal of effort. You also have to be mentally strong to deal with confrontations. However, boundaries can quickly wake someone up from their addiction. Set firm boundaries and stick to them. It makes the family member realize that they cannot continue their alcohol addiction.
  • Get Help and Get Strong – You may not be able to help your family member. However, you should not go downhill with them. If you start to exhibit negative thoughts or behaviors such as anxiety, anger, depression, or addiction yourself, then it is time to get help. You can also seek treatment at a substance abuse treatment center, even if you do not have an addiction.

Do You Help Confronting a Loved One?

If you would like to find out more about how to help an alcoholic family member, then contact Granite Recovery. We offer a comprehensive alcohol detox center, rehab, and aftercare for alcoholism. Call us at 855.712.7784 to seek treatment for substance abuse. Granite Recovery Centers provides medical detoxification for people who do not need immediate medical intervention, are not a danger to themselves, and are capable of self-evacuation in the event of an emergency.

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